Do you want to get kinky and turn things up a notch in the boudoir? If being spanked secretly turns you on somewhere in those dark desires of your mind, you are one of many. Not as “out there” sexually speaking. If impact play sounds a little scary or out of your comfort zone, then you’re not alone. Being aroused at the thought a jolly good spanking is actually more common that most people think. When missionary feels like a chore, maybe it is time to pull out the big guns and sprinkle your sex life with something hot and spicy.
What is impact play?
Impact play is a part of the BDSM spectrum. The ‘impact’ is often repeated blows on your thighs, butt and erogenous zones. It’s the exciting art of sexual intimacy with toys (mostly). Whipping, flogging, slapping and spanking (hands included) are usually the main jiggy. When you hit the right nerves it releases your endorphins and dopamine (happy brain chemicals), sending your mind into a state of bliss. Impact play is hot and adventurous. You’re exploring your very own untouched and uninhabited sexual territory.
Is impact play something everyone can do?
Yes and no. Because all people have differing pain thresholds it’s important to establish what these are for you and your partner. It’s all about individual preference. Pace your impact play, then build up the flow and repetition. Build the momentum slowly and at your own timing. Once you are both on the same wavelength, your body will be happily floating away in BDSM heaven.
How Can We Make Impact Play Fun But Still Safe?
One of the most important rules of impact play ensure that you feel safe, in a very comfortable atmosphere, with a partner that you really trust. Communicating with each other about the experience you want is key. If your play partner comes along all guns blazing and you only want a soft session, it can be upsetting. The goal is to have loads of fun so you come back for more.
Final Note: Safety Word
A safety word is imperative if your impact play is going to get rough. A safety word is a non-sexual word that your partner immediately as a signal to stop ensures your bedroom antics are completely consensual.
Now go forth and whip up a storm with your partner. Feel free to drop me a line or leave a comment below.