For the most part, oral sex is one of the highlights of a mutually satisfying sex life and learning how to give a blow job is one of the best ways to keep a bloke happy.
This post is primarily aimed at women giving men head, but men who give blow jobs to other men may find this guide useful. Generally speaking, because men have the same parts, so will instinctively know a little more about what feels good for another guy.
One of the things that will spoil a decent BJ is sharp teeth. The penis is extremely sensitive so keep your teeth behind your lips and tongue. You don’t want to cause an injury. If you tuck your lips over your teeth you won’t have an issue.
The standard blow job is “sucking” on the penis, at least when it comes to the base action, but take it really gently at first. The lips and tongue play a massive role here, keeping your actions soft initially is probably the best way to coax out an erection if the starting member is a little soft. Once the penis is more firm you can explore different pressures from your lips. You can push your lips forward or tuck them over teeth depending on the pressure he reacts to.
Depending on the size of the penis in question and the size of your mouth, you may find it necessary to use your hands, at the base of the penis, especially if you can’t get your mouth all the way down to the base of the shaft. When you have a bit more experience on how to give a blow job, you’ll know instinctively how to work with your man’s cock size, and make an informed decision as to whether or not to get handy.
If you find yourself gagging on his cock (it’s just a reflex when something touches the throat and if he is long this will invariably happen) try moving back up the shaft of the penis and using the hands with either lubrication or saliva to replicate the feeling of the lips around the base of the penis. Use your mouth and tongue at the top half and the hands at the bottom. If you find your jaw getting sore, use your hands with loads of lube and take a rest from using your mouth for a bit.
The tongue is another part of the mouth that can really hype up the intensity of oral sex. The penis is also as multi-faceted as the vagina or clitoris so different forms of stimulation are going to produce different kinds of sensations and feelings. Licking the underside of the penis is probably going to produce the most feeling, but a pleasant tickling sensation can also be felt at the top.
One thing you can also try is sitting at the side of the man and giving a blow job from the side, using your lips firmly over your teeth to increase the pressure on the sides of the penis. You’ll feel it right away if he likes it.
Sometimes it’s nice to bring his testicles into the party. Some guys go nuts for a gentle cupping or popping carefully into your mouth. There’s also a little bit of skin between the back of the balls and the anus that many men find super sensitive and stroking that with your hand or, if you fancy, your tongue. Most men love this, just work up to it if you aren’t sure.
While every man likes a BJ performed a little differently, even and repetitive motions tend to help you arrive at the destination a little quicker. It’s about getting into the man’s rhythm. Pay attention to what he responds to, the motions, the pressure or any flinching.
If in any doubt at all, just ask him how he likes it. Most men are quite happy to tell you exactly what they like. Many guys will grab his partners head and push it, try to match this rhythm.
A common FAQ that women have is whether of not they should swallow when the man cums. It’s entirely up to the taste of the couple. Some women swallow because they like it or it’s tidier. Some men love to cum on a woman’s face, boobs or body, some women love to have a man cum on them.
A lot of men like the see the fruits of their labour dribbling out of their woman’s mouth. In the moment, just try different things to see what he likes, what you like, there are no hard and fast rules on this. In any case, it’s good to have a towel handy, so you have a clean up option if you don’t swallow.
If you do swallow, it’s not going to break the calorie bank at about 20 calories per load, and as men will say emphatically, it’s loaded with protein. Looking for a face serum and mask in one: jizz is just the answer.