Porn is still a bit of a taboo subject that can be embarrassing to talk about anyone, let alone a partner. The world of pornography is so pervasive and makes up a whopping 30% of the internet. Even if by accident, everyone at some point, ends up with a pleasant (or not) surprise on your screen. You’ll soon get to know the best porn stars and who you like to watch.

Relaxation and Pleasure

If your partner is not around or just not feeling the need for intimacy, then watching porn can be a great way to de-stress and unwind. Plus after you orgasm or ejaculate, you release the body’s feel good chemical, dopamine, leaving you relaxing and satisfied with an afterglow.

Healthy or Not?

Viewing too much porn can be problematic. Everything in moderation, as the saying goes. If one of you is consuming more porn than the other, in the long term it can offer less relationship satisfaction and less positive communication. If your porn viewing supersedes your levels of activity together, it may be indicative of a deeper relationship issue.

Some statistics have even linked viewing porn with divorce, finding that watching explicit material may double the likelihood of divorce. It certainly doesn’t need to be that way because you and your partner pave the way to a healthy relationship with porn.

Open Communication

Dr Fran Walfish – child and family psychotherapist, believes the secrecy caused by not disclosing porn habits to a partner can be felt as a “betrayal and raise mistrust, suspicions, and put a wedge of distance between the partners.”

Talking about the types of porn you enjoy may give you fresh ideas on different areas to explore together. Discussing porn viewing preferences can also give you a better understanding of what turns on your significant other.

It’s important to remember to listen and speak without shaming or judging (yourself or your partner) and may actually help you and your partner to be more accepting of one another.

“Being honest their own sexuality and the things that sexually titillate, stimulate, arouse, and turn-on their about pornography use with a partner indicates that the person is comfortable with excitation,” said Dr Walfish.

Watching Porn Together

If you’re enjoying it by yourself, why not enjoy it with your partner?

The conversation about watching porn together may not be an easy one to have; it isn’t generally something that you’d bring up over tea and scones.

Find a time when you’re both alone. Perhaps after dinner, with a glass of wine in hand. Keep things nice and relaxed. Remember though; if you do feel too vulnerable or exposed you do have the right to ‘pull out’ and so does the person you’re speaking too.

Fun with Porn and Toys

Toys are a fun thing to use while you’re watching, whether that’s with or without your partner. Check out our adult toy store for ideas!