The question men keep asking us… where is a woman’s g-spot? In a recent released study, 65% of heterosexual women polled were unsatisfied with their sex lives. Most women nodded their heads in emphatic agreement and whispered to each other that the percentage figure should be higher. Why are these statistics so grim?
It could be due to the fact that only 18% of women achieve orgasm solely through penetration. Fingers, tongues and toys definitely help push that number higher, but most women still need clitoral stimulation to have an orgasm.
There has been the assertion, based on medical research, that the female orgasm doesn’t even exist, but that claim is outside the scope of this article, which seeks to help you, dear reader, avoid the pitfalls of unfulfilling sex.
So…What is the G Spot?
Many people discuss the “G Spot” which was introduced by Dr. Beverly Whipple, who discovered an intense response from women who used a “come hither” motion along the inside of the vaginal wall.
However, the infamous G-spot is not a distinct part of the female anatomy, but rather it is an element of the clitoral network and a sensitive area in the vagina. Because both of these spots differ from woman to woman, finding the G-spot can be difficult.
There is no standard G-spot map. Nonetheless, studies definitely conclude that once this area is stimulated, women can have a vaginal orgasm.
How to Locate the Pleasure Zone
The next question is obviously how to find the G-spot, especially if there is no handy map? It is often suggested that even though it can be great fun attempting to locate it during play with a partner, it might be better for women to discover it on their own.
This self-intimacy is actually quite significant for female sexual pleasure since a woman can discover her own body, and places, touches and techniques that she would like to explore later with a partner.
There are many books and toys that seek to help people find the G-spot, so please feel free to shop online or visit your local sex shop.
Time to Get Real About Sex
If that seems too overwhelming because you or a partner are too shy, then please don’t worry!
As mentioned above, women can find their own erogenous zone by relaxing and exploring their bodies. Only when ready, a woman should massage the outside of her vagina, and then insert fingers or a toy. Lift the toy or fingers upward, towards the belly button, moving in “come here” motion.
Try to find the area and the motion that feels the best. The stroking motion is more effective in creating sensation than the usual in and out movement.
Please note that not all women will respond in the same way to G-spot stimulation, so truly, there is not a right or wrong way to have an orgasm. Don’t feel under any undue pressure to perform. The female orgasm is as unique as the G-spot itself and therefore, there does need some time to ascertain what feels pleasurable and what doesn’t.
Here Are Some Great Ways to Enjoy Yourself
As to be expected, there are sexual positions that can enhance sensation, particularly G-spot stimulation. Usually ones that allow the woman to maintain control over the movements are the positions that lead to G-spot stimulation and hopefully, female orgasm.
However, there are three positions that are best for starting the exciting journey of female sexual satisfaction and G-spot location.
With the woman on top, straddling her partner who is lying flat on their back, this position gives control of the movement to the woman. She can control the rhythm, speed, depth and angle of penetration. Remember to move back and forth, rather than up and down, since this movement will rub against the inner vaginal wall, building sensation.
With all of the variations in this position, doggy style is a wonderful way to experiment with angle, depth and speed. Deeper penetration does appear to be connected to G-spot stimulation, and this position certainly delivers it.
Although the practical aspects may seem readily apparent, the woman should start on her hands and knees with her partner behind. Then, during intercourse, feel free to shift positions subtly, bending the elbows or going down onto the forearms, pushing the hips backwards, spreading the knees and arching the back.
Although this position might not initially sound “fun”, it does offer the chance for stimulation with shallow penetration, for a different sexual experience. The woman should assume the usual missionary position, except that her legs should be together. As a result, the partner will straddle the woman and squeeze into the vagina, for shallow and tight friction that will activate the G-spot.
Discovering the G-spot is a great way to start both a sexual self-discovery and satisfying relationship intimacy. It may take some experimentation and time, but the destination is well worth it.
So, put aside any shyness and shame, embrace the possibility of greater sex and enjoy the journey!
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