Masturbation is one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself. Self-love is the one hobby no one grows tired of. Whether it’s solo or mutual, there are endless forms of expression and techniques to explore with yourself and/or partner’s, depending on one’s imagination. Masturbation is also the great stress reliever, can cure boredom, and can be part of seduction. Solo or together, the advantages and playfulness of masturbation can, at times, be more titillating than sex itself.
An old friend of mine told me an awkward, funny story about how she discovered masturbating. She’d had a long line of health problems throughout puberty, and could never figure out the correct way in which her body would positively respond when masturbating. In her late teens, she began going to gym. One day during some leg crunches, she felt a tingle down there. As she continued with the crunches, the tingle grew and grew until finally, in front of a whole group of men and women working out, she reached climax. Her face was flushed, sweaty and she felt euphoric – really not unlike most people exercising at the gym, anyway. From there on in, and as far as I know until this day, she kills two birds with one stone, via her unique style of leg crunching.
Mutual masturbation at the beginning of a relationship can be awkward. Neither of you are familiar with each other’s bodies and habits, and through trial and error, partners can slowly begin to work out the algebraic equation that is the other body. Once you become more confident and comfortable with each other, you can get more adventurous. At home, lazing around, watching television, hands can start exploring. Or, if you’re more daring the movies can provide the backdrop for a hand that begins to unbuckle a belt, or find its way up a skirt. In these instances it’s easy to become swept up in the slow-burned momentum, but pulling back and teasing, ensures even greater excitement.
Here’s a form of heavy petting that all couples should try…. It involves being in bed, late at night, with all lights off. Both parties should be naked, with a space between them. In that space should be a laptop, opened up to either porn, or an erotic film with lots of sex. The rule is that partners cannot touch one another, and the first one to cave loses (or do they?). This game is great for teasing exercises, but adding subtle, mutual masturbation, makes the game an entirely new thing unto itself.
Here are some sites for further investigation. Have fun!
Step by Step Mutual Masturbation