Blended-orgasms. Is there any better topic? No matter how you identify, we all want to have as many orgasms as humanly possible.
When most people with vaginas think of their own orgasms, they usually think of the clitoral orgasm. However, depending on what sexologist you ask, there are potentially more than 10 different types of possible orgasms! In general, however, 36% of people state they exclusively have clitoral orgasms, compared to just 6% who have vaginal orgasms on a regular basis.
First, Let’s Talk About the Clitoris
The clitoris is that little part on the outside that gives you the easiest orgasm, right? Only partially.
That tiny little button is actually much larger than it appears! In reality, it is actually shaped like a wishbone and has “legs” that extend about five inches downward on either side of the vulva! It is also what makes up a portion of the g-spot on the inside of your body (where it connects with the urethra). The clitoris is made up of over 8,000 nerve endings, which is nearly twice as many as in the head of a penis!
Clitoral orgasms are surface based, and usually feel warm and tingly.
So, Where is My G-Spot?!
Don’t worry. A lot of people haven’t explored their own g-spots!
To find yours, try this simple technique. While lying face up on the bed, insert a single finger into your vagina with your palm facing up. You’ll want to go in only about an inch or two, and you’re going to be looking for an area that feels different than the surrounding tissue (kind of rough or spongy) on the front wall. Touching your g-spot can sometimes make you feel like you have to pee, but that is only temporary.
G-spot orgasms generally feel like they occur deeper in the body, and can also cause people to “squirt” or ejaculate when they have them (don’t worry, this is not urine like most people think it is).
Let’s Talk About Having Our Cake and Eating It Too… The Blended Orgasm
Obviously, a blended orgasm is a blend of two of the most common types – the clitoral orgasm and the g-spot orgasm. Both are amazing on their own, but combined? Mind blowing. However, they can take some (ahem) work to accomplish.
Before attempting a blended orgasm with your partner, give it a go on your own.
Start with making sure you have the time, and the house, to yourself. Being able to have the mental headspace to be comfortable with your own body is important, both with orgasms and with life in general. Grab a glass of wine or a beer, head into the bedroom, and lie flat on your back. Relax for a while and remember, this is supposed to be fun!
When you’re ready, start giving your clitoris some light attention. Nothing serious, just start getting yourself aroused. As you begin to feel yourself getting turned on, use more pressure and go faster until you feel yourself getting close.
When you’re almost there, stop giving your clitoris attention and direct it to your G-spot. Once you’re even more turned on, use your other hand to continue rubbing your clitoris. Go as hard as you need, paying equal attention to both your clitoris and your g-spot, until you reach climax. This might not happen the first time and that’s ok! Practice makes perfect… and is fun!
The Best Position for a Blended Orgasm With Your Partner
Why leave your partner out of the fun?!
For people who are sexually active with a partner with a penis, the best position is with you on your back with your legs hanging over the bed. Put a few pillows underneath your butt to elevate your pelvis, then have them thrust slowly until he hits your g-spot. Reach down and stroke your clitoris while he does his thing, and enjoy that blended orgasm! Many people also find them achievable doggy-style or even with the woman on top.
With couples who both have vaginas, blended orgasms can be reached by using a strap-on in any of the above described positions, or with a vibrator or manual stimulation. You can also practice next to each other, and enjoy the added bonus of being able to watch each other masturbate.
The key to any successful partnership is communication, so don’t feel awkward talking to your partner about what you want and how they can help get you off.
The Happy Ending…
Blended orgasms are achievable for everyone with enough patience and practice. They can be a fun, fulfilling, and exciting new way to enjoy orgasms… either alone or with a partner (or partners!). In some cases, blended orgasms can even help you reach the elusive “squirt.” Don’t be afraid to step outside of the box and discover something new about your own body. They may become a regular part of your sexual recipe book.